Assignment: Roller coaster of emotions

Assignment: Roller coaster of emotions
Assignment: Roller coaster of emotions
Personal Reflection
As a child I was a daddy’s girl, mainly because he was the only male in the house that consisted of my mom and three daughters. The rollercoaster of emotions and female bickering was constant, but my dad knew how to put every drama filled emotion out without us feeling like we didn’t matter. My mother was the disciplinarian and my father was our savior because he knew how to keep everyone calm. My father was a social worker that specialized in severe child abuse cases, and I remember the feelings he would express to my mom when he was able to save a child. I have seen my dad cry many times, but I never saw him get upset to the point where he was cussing or fighting in his personal or professional life. The cases he had made me want to put some of the adults that made their children suffer devastating circumstances stand in front of a firing squad as their punishment. Watching how blessed my dad lived and how passionate he was in his career, gave me the strength to figure out what I want to do with my life. I know who I am and one thing I inherited from my dad is the fact that I am always evolving. Every time I master something I want to learn how to become better than I was the year before or even the day before. When I was a child my dad was the calm mild manner personality in our house, he was the voice of reason. My mother was the fire and pretty much ran the entire house. Please understand both of my parents are awesome and I am blessed beyond measure. I used to get upset with my dad if my mom said something mean or direct to him, because he would never ever say anything back to her. I would tell him dad you need to stand up to her, or dad why do you allow her to talk to you like that? My parents were married 48 years when my dad passed, and that is when I realized the strength he had in him was greater than any man I know. Do you know how hard it is to keep quiet when someone is saying something mean to you? I know it is something that I struggle with daily because I have a low tolerance for disrespect or rudeness.Assignment: Roller coaster of emotions I learned it is so easy for people to go back and forth with words, and some will even physically fight. The strength it takes to walk away is one of the keys to happiness because in that strength you realize the aggressor has no power over you. No matter what they say to you the power is in not responding which is incredibly difficult. I wish when my dad was alive I would have understood this because he tried to teach me. I finally got it and because of this lesson it made me want to live my life helping people figure out their lives. I do feel my calling to be a counselor is divine intervention, but no matter what it takes to become the best counselor ever I will do it over and over again.
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Summary
The choice we make in deciding if we want to work or have a career is a vital decision that will impact and set the tone for the life you are living. Differences occur when we get up in the morning, get dressed for a job or a passion. The formula for some may be easy, and then for others it may be difficult, because survival of life at times may come in the form of a job. The purpose in each of us has to supersede the survival because only then will you feel fulfillment in living the life that you were destined to live. Applying Super’s Developmental Approach which I am more in favor of will help my clients understand that they have the ability to develop any career they want the entire time they are living. Erikson’s Theory of Identity Development I do not foresee me using often with a practice in the United States. However if I am ever counseling in a culture that has children that begin working at 5 or 6 his theory will be quite useful.
References
Broderick, P. C., & Blewitt, P. (2015). The life span: Human development for helping professionals (4th ed.). Upper Saddle River, NJ: Pearson Education.
Belsky, J. (2010). Childhood experience and the development of reproductive strategies. Psicothema, 22(1), 28–34.
Readings
· Broderick, P. C., & Blewitt, P. (2015). The life span: Human development for helping professionals (4th ed.). Upper Saddle River, NJ: Pearson Education.
o Chapter 12, “Socioemotional and Vocational Development in Young Adulthood” (review pp. 438-476)
o Chapter 13, “Middle Adulthood: Cognitive, Personality, and Social Development” (pp. 478-525)
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